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The Importance of Looking at His Behavior
Psychologists frequently emphasize that behavior is a stronger indicator of commitment than declarations of love.
Important questions include:
- Is he honest about his situation?
- Does he take responsibility for his choices?
- Is he consistent in his actions?
- Does he make promises he never fulfills?
- Is he willing to face the consequences of his decisions?
Someone who repeatedly says “I love you” but makes no meaningful effort to align his actions with his words may be expressing emotion rather than commitment.
Sometimes It Is About Validation
Human beings naturally seek appreciation and connection.
In some cases, a married man may feel admired, desired, or understood by someone outside his marriage. The emotional reward can be powerful and may lead him to believe he is experiencing love when he is actually experiencing validation and excitement.
